Why do gay guys ask me out, I am a girl!?

I am a married female so you know a little about me I am intense, pionate, stubborn as hell, shy, reserved yet somehow very open and honest (I guess I am not forthcoming with info but answer questions very directly), feisty, somewhat insensitive I guess. I am not typically pretty I am rather unusual I guess so some people find me attractive and others not so much. I am what I am simply, I am not ashamed of not being Christian or of being biual, I do not hide these things about myself. I've never related to other girls well, sometimes its outright hostility. Being before I was married it was sort of hard for me that girls disliked me so much, s, strait girls doesn't matter. Very few girls have ever shown signs of attraction to me. I've always gotten along better with guys, they are generally more strait-forward, which is important b/c I guess I am dense about certain things. Anyways, I have been asked out on numerous occions by guys who are predominantly gay in some cases I am the only woman they've approached romantically. These are not guys who just say they are to get close, they are openly gay and have been in known relationships with other men. Sometime ago I was talking to a guy (mostly gay by his definition) and I noticed he was exhibiting some strong signs of a crush and eventually we stopped being friends b/c he could not deal with the romantic feelings he was having and with my being married (I do not ume this he told me). Our whole relationship fell to **** when he invited me out with my husband on what was perhaps a date looking back on it though that's not what I'd understood it to be at the time. In another instance there is this again predominantely gay guy who will wrap his arms around me, whisper in my ear perverted things and even grabbed my *** in front of my husband. Either it seems that these guys develop romantic or just ual feelings for me or they outright hate me, sometimes its both hating me and coming on to me inappropriately. What is this about? My husband once told me being married to me is like being married to a man. I don't look like a man btw :-P Strait guys I get along with but you know I say I am married and usually that's that once I tell them which I do b/c come on I am not going to lead someone on, sometimes they stick around but become flirty and the relationships don't last. I'd love to know why I can't make friends, that are just friends. Why might other girls dislike me? Obviously not every guy who meets me likes it, far from it really. Why are gay guys asking me out?